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          What is a working definition of ‘intimacy’ that  a therapist might use in conjoint therapy?2. 
          
          What are  common types of marriages in  which togetherness has been chosen over intimacy, causing conflict?
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          If the therapist must "risk" straining the  therapeutic relationship with one partner, failure to have a strong  relationship with which partner runs a greater risk of negatively affecting the  outcome of conjoint therapy?
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          What are  common ways couples undermine  communication during infidelity issues?
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          What are  common types of filters?
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          What are the   ground rules for both the speaker and listener in the speaker-listener  technique?
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          What are  kinds of hidden issues between  spouses?
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          What are  key assumptions that can help  couples approach learning steps to solve problems together?
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          What are the  steps in the "Address with  Respect" problem solving technique?
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          According to Scheinkman and Fishbane, what are   important elements in the vulnerability cycle diagram?
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          What are  roadblocks to friendship in  marriage?
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          What are  barriers to fun that couples may  experience?
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          What are  of the biggest roadblocks to  sexuality between married couples?
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          What are  key topics concerning the process  of forgiveness?
 | Answers: A. The parent-child, the stormy , and    the "perfect".B.  when two    partners, secure in themselves, are able to take care of their own moods and    wishes. Each acts as a separate    individual, autonomous but emotionally connected to the other.
 C. Escalation, invalidation, negative    interpretations, and withdrawal and avoidance
 D. Failure to have a strong therapeutic alliance with    the male partner may have a more negative impact on the outcome    of conjoint therapy.
 E. the floor, share the floor,    and don’t problem solve.
 F. Distractions, emotional states, beliefs and expectations, differences    in style, and self-protection
 G. All  have    problems,  who approach problems as a team are more    effective at problem solving, and rushing to find answers does not produce lasting solutions.
 H. control and power,  caring, issues of recognition, issues of    commitment, and   integrity.
 I. Premises and beliefs, vulnerabilities, survival    positions, influences from personal history, and contextual factors
 J. discussion, agenda setting, brainstorming, agreement    and compromise, and follow-up.
 K. Being too busy, the opinion that fun is for kids, and conflict gets in the way.
 L. There’s no time, "we’re not friends, we’re    married", "we don’t talk like friends anymore", the ravages of conflict, and reckless    words
 M. Defining forgiveness, taking responsibility, and regaining trust.
 N. Performance anxiety and mishandled conflicts.
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