Engaged
• Active attempts by the relative to change the problem users behavior e.g. encouraging the problem user not to drink or take drugs
• Active attempts by the relative to control the use of substances by the problem user e.g. controlling their money
• Expressing strong emotions about the alcohol or drug use e.g. starting an argument
Tolerant
• Actions which protect problem user from negative consequences of their misuse e.g. joining the problem user in drinking or taking drugs
• Certain forms of tolerant coping are self-sacrificing e.g. the relative clearing up mess made by the problem user after the problem user has been drinking or taking drugs
Withdrawal
• Aim to put physical/psychological distance between relative and problem user e.g. staying with a friend to avoid spending time with the problem user
• Being independent and doing something for self e.g. pursuing own interests like sport
Coping Engaged
Coping Tolerant
Coping Withdrawn
Description
Active interaction between the relative and the alcohol/drug user focused on attempting to deal with the problem.
Sometimes involve interactions, sometimes lack of action. The main result is that it removes negative consequences for the user.
Attempts to put distance between the relative and the user. Sometimes driven by uncertainty, sometimes a need to look after self.
Thoughts
"I ought to be able to change him/her"
"Others do not understand him/her"
"The less we are together, the better"
Emotions
Angry, hurt, responsible
Powerless, guilty
Self reliant or hurt
Actions (examples)
Watched his/her every move, checked him/her, or kept an eye on him/her
Given him/her money even when you thought it would be spent on drink/drugs
Avoided him/her as much as possible because of his/her drinking
Possible Advantage
May help relatives feel that they are doing something positive
Conflict may be avoided
May prevent relatives from becoming over-involved
Possible Disadvantage
It may be very stressful, and make the user feel resentful
Relatives may feel they are being taken advantage of
Relatives may feel that they are rejecting and/or excluding the user
Aims
1. Assess the effectiveness of the current ways of coping of the relative
2. Enable the relative to see that there are alternative ways of coping
3. Empower the relative to think of alternative ways of responding to their situation Remember
1. There are three ways in which the relative may currently be coping with the situation
2. All forms of coping may be linked with feelings of guilt and worry and a sense of powerlessness for the relative
3. Some forms of coping may result in worse physical or psychological problems for the relative What to do
1. Discuss the relative’s present ways of coping
2. Discuss the advantages and disadvantages of current ways of coping
3. Discuss alternative ways of coping with the relative
4. Discuss the advantages and disadvantages of these new ways of coping
- Copello, Alex et al; "Methods for reducing alcohol and drug related family harm in non-specialist settings"; Journal of Mental Health; Jun2000, Vol. 9 Issue 3; p329-343
Personal
Reflection Exercise #3
The preceding section contained information
about the three methods family members use to cope with substance abuse. Write
three case study examples regarding how you might use the content of this section
in your practice.
Reviewed 2023
Update
The co-occurrence of substance misuse, domestic abuse,
and child maltreatment: Can Family Drug and Alcohol Courts play a part?
- Harwin, J., & Barlow, C. (2022). The co-occurrence of substance misuse, domestic abuse, and child maltreatment: Can Family Drug and Alcohol Courts play a part?. Frontiers in psychiatry, 13, 989813. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyt.2022.989813
Peer-Reviewed Journal Article References:
Acheson, A., Vincent, A. S., Cohoon, A., & Lovallo, W. R. (2019). Early life adversity and increased delay discounting: Findings from the Family Health Patterns project. Experimental and Clinical Psychopharmacology, 27(2), 153–159.
Joyner, K. J., Acuff, S. F., Meshesha, L. Z., Patrick, C. J., & Murphy, J. G. (2018). Alcohol family history moderates the association between evening substance-free reinforcement and alcohol problems.Experimental and Clinical Psychopharmacology, 26(6), 560–569.
Roy, A. L., Isaia, A., & Li-Grining, C. P. (2019). Making meaning from money: Subjective social status and young children’s behavior problems. Journal of Family Psychology, 33(2), 240–245.
QUESTION
17 What are the three methods family members use for coping with substance abuse? To select and enter your answer go to Test.