Questions:
1.
What
are results of an abusive controlling relationship?
2.
The "instant-replay syndrome"
and "guilt trip strategy" are examples of what?
3.
What are tactics the controlling
abusive partner may use to establish and maintain his power-base in the relationship?
4.
What
is one application of the Cold-Weather Analogy?
5.
Jekyll-and–Hyde reframing can result
in what benefit for your client?
6.
What
are patterns of specific behavior related to brainwashing?
7.
What
are Connect-the-Dot perspectives?
8.
What are urban legends or myths
regarding solutions to abuse by the “Great Catch?”
9.
To reconstruct the reality of self-blame
experienced by your client, what are the key words to use to recall the B-A-D
questions in a session with a client?
10.
In "Communication Magic"
the victim of the abuse rationalizes that her "Great Catch" will magically
stop saying hurtful things once he understands what about her?
11.
In “Dispute Listing” what
are the types of entries on the Client Worksheet?
12.
If you client is trying to fight fire
with fire, when communicating with his or her great catch, what style of communication
are they using?
13.
What
is a visualization you might use if you are experiencing Secondary Traumatic Stress
Syndrome with a client who repeated returns to his or her abuser?
14.
Resistance against an abuser, in a
relationship challenges what?
15.
What are three interpersonal costs of anger?
16.
What are four implications of anger?
17.
What are four areas of understanding to help your client to take personal responsibility for anger?
18.
What are the six steps to responsibility?
19.
What are four fallacies of "should"?
20.
What are four aspects of blame?
21.
What are four stress reduction techniques?
22.
What are four ways to solve stress problems?
23.
What are six aversive chains?
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Answers:
a. Substance abuse; unhealthy childhood; stress; insecurity;
and venting feelings
b. Mildly attacking and then vigorously attacking
the abusive behavior
c. Loss of Power and Disintegration of self-image
d. A yo-yo with an increasingly lengthening string
e. Giving
self permission to have and express negative feelings about the “Great Catch”
f. his partner's good intentions
g. A validation of
feelings
h. Isolation; focus on the batterer's potential anger; exhaustion;
dependency; feelings of incompetence; threats; occasional indulgences; demonstration
of superiority or power; degradation and humiliation; and enforcing trivial demands
i. Can't-You-Take-a-Joke; The Betrayal-of-a-Confidence; Breaking-an-Agreement
j. The level of control and the balance of power
k. Labeling
l. Child
m. Bear, Acceptable; and Deserve
n. Potential verses
reality; reacting and defending verses goal-directed productive behavior; “If
only” hoping
o. there is nothing inherently right or legitimate about anger, anger is an expression of stress, forget displacement and anger is a choice
p. raising defenses, losing a sense of well-being and isolation.
q. reinforcing others, meeting your own needs, finding support elsewhere, setting limits, negotiating assertively and letting go
r. how to state your needs, understanding that others know their needs, understanding inevitable collision of needs and understanding strategies for satisfaction.
s. Awareness, Good-Bad Dichotomizing, Assumed Intent and Magnifying
t. the entitlement fallacy, the fallacy of fairness, the fallacy of change and the "letting it out" fallacy
u. Four ways to solve stress problems are identifying problems that cause stress, clarifying your goals, alternative strategies, and analyzing the consequences.
v. Scanning Your Body for Stress, Breathing Away Stress, Progressive Muscle Relaxation and Meditation
w. verbal behaviors, nonverbal sounds, voice quality, gestures using hands and arms, facial expressions and body movements |
