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6 found at the bottom of this page In the last track, we talked about Expanding Choice Points. As you know, not all battering relationships go through the standard cycle that includes the violent action followed by the honeymoon phase, and finally the build-up to more violence. Which one of your clients does not follow this standard abuse cycle? In The Abusive Personality: Violence and Control in Intimate Relationships, Dutton points out that the type of batterer determines whether a cycle appears or does not appear. Dutton divides abusers into Overcontrollers versus Undercontrollers and Instrumental versus Impulsive. Overcontrollers
versus Undercontrollers Charles, age 34, wasn't one of those men who got so wrapped with his life that he took his wife, Martha, for granted. Quite the contrary, Charles knew all of Martha's movements during the day. Charles displayed his overcontrolling nature by calling Martha constantly. He wanted to monitor her activities and make sure she was where she said she would be. However, in treatment, Charles would deny his rage and instead feel frustrated and resentful. Jacobson refers to Overcontrollers as "Pit Bulls," and states they have a masked dependency on their wives. By masked dependency, I mean a dependency of which the batterer is unaware. The Overcontrolling batterer usually scores high on "avoidant personality disorder assessments." Overcontrollers not only deny their anger, but also avoid conflicts. I have found that the Overcontrolling batterer usually reports having a cycle of one week without anger and one week with anger. Thus, for an entire week the Overcontrolling male might find he has nothing to report in an Anger Log. Undercontrollers, on the other hand, do not deny their rage. And unlike the Overcontrollers, Undercontrollers act out frequently. Thomas, age 27, came into our sessions complaining about his wife, Theresa. He stated, "She gets mad at me because I gamble. But gambling makes me feel like I have at least some excitement in my life. She runs the house by taking care of the finances and the kids. Gambling just provides a kind of excitement that I can't get from my marriage. Theresa makes everything so boring and predictable." In a later session, Thomas also stated that his kids always seem to side with Theresa. Thomas stated, "I do have a bit of a temper. And I get angry when the kids side with Theresa instead of me." Thomas seemed unaware of the demeaning impact his actions had on Theresa. Thomas was also unaware that he was making submissive requests when he asked Theresa, "Will you allow me to gamble?" Thus, Thomas the undercontroller acts out frequently when he feels rejection from Theresa or from his children. Often times, his feelings where similar to those which accompanied rejection from his father. Have you found, like I, that with Undercontrollers a cycle does not appear? I found that with Thomas the explosions of violence were so frequent and unpredictable that the honeymoon phase and build up phase were not experienced. Thus, a cycle did not appear. A technique I found helpful with overcontrollers and undercontrollers was to listen to Charles and Thomas without any hint of criticism or rejection. As you know, this helped to build a therapeutic alliance and create a safe environment. This obviously is a basic therapy concept. But…think about a client with whom you have not yet bonded and whose actions are contrary to your value system. Do a body-scan during your next session to assess non-verbal messages of disapproval that you may be conveying. Ask yourself, how much "secondary traumatic stress syndrome" do I experience when treating batterers? Do I need to increase the frequency of body scanning to create and maintain a positive therapeutic relationship with my physically abusive client? Recall from the beginning of this track that Dutton not only differentiates between overcontrollers and undercontrollers. Dutton also draws a distinction between the impulsive and the instrumental batterer. Both the Overcontroller and the Impulsive batterer go through battering cycles. However, the Undercontroller and the Instrumental batterer do not go through as regular a cyclical pattern. So, let's look at Dutton's classification of batterers related to instrumental batterers versus impulsive batterers. Impulsive
vs. Instrumental Recall Thomas from earlier in this track. He was upset with his wife, Theresa, because she did not approve of his gambling. If you recall, Thomas described gambling as a way to obtain excitement in his otherwise boring life. Thomas stated, "I am 27 and still young! I need some kind of action in my life!" For Thomas, excitement, or a lack thereof, is an issue that creates tension for him. I find that Thomas may feel the way that he does because the rejection from his children reminds him of beatings his father gave him. These beatings were with a closed fist. However, regarding instrumental batterers…Unlike impulsive batterers, Jacobson describes instrumental batterers as "cobras." They tend to use violence coldly to obtain a specific objective. Instrumental batterers are more intensely violent than other batterers. In fact, they are more likely to use a weapon against their victim during an altercation. Obviously, Thomas does not fall into this category, but George did. Jacobson sites the case of George whose intimidation of his wife, Vicky, was cold and systematic. George used intimidation as a way of controlling Vicky. She would do anything for him, but it never seemed to be enough. George used Instrumental abuse with everyone in his life and was successful. As long as he was mean and tough with women, it was second nature for George to combine sweet talk with threats. George had an uncanny sense of how to get Vicky emotionally entangled. In a separate session with Vicky, she stated, "I mistakenly saw George's cynical side, at first, as a mark of his vulnerability." Do
Dutton's classifications of overcontrol versus undercontrol and impulsive versus
instrumental provide a helpful clarification regarding a client you are currently
treating? In the next track we will discuss, what I term, "Nice Guy Positioning
Strategies." QUESTION
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